Billy Graham made this statement: “When we come to the end of ourselves, we come to the beginning of God.”
As I consider knowing God along with Billy Graham’s statement, I think about Joseph, whose account is told in the book of Genesis. I also think about Ruth, whose biography is written in the book of Ruth. I am also mindful of the apostles Peter and Paul, whose accounts are in the New Testament of the Bible.
Each of these people came to a saving and intimate love relationship with the Lord. But God first brought them to the end of themselves.
What does it mean to “come to the end of ourselves”?
I define that as the point in which I realize that I cannot do this life on my own, that I need the Lord Jesus to save me from my sins, and set my value. At that point for me, I realized that operating life outside of the parameters of God and His Word was a waste of time. Especially when I compare this with what the Bible teaches about what God can do when our lives are operated under His auspices.
It means that I no longer try to hide who I am behind a smokescreen, but I allow God to work His power in me to change me so that I am becoming holy (Holy also means to be made whole.).
I want to be whole! I don’t like being broken, and that is what I was before accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior.
The world cannot offer this to me, but God does!
“Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you through and through [that is, separate you from profane and vulgar things, make you pure and whole and undamaged—consecrated to Him—set apart for His purpose]; and may your spirit and soul and body be kept complete and [be found] blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.” 1 Thessalonians 5:23 Amplified Bible
For many years I chased after the ways of this world, believing they were the answer to my longings. But God revealed to me that was a lie. He pulled me out of the muck and mire of my sin.
He opened my heart to my need for Jesus as Lord and Savior.
He reveals Himself to me through His Word every day.
He shows His faithfulness to me in the ways He works in my life each day.
He works His power in and through me for His good pleasure, and I am blessed.
But first I had to come to the end of myself so that I could wholeheartedly embrace Him.
Now, I would never want to turn back to the ways of the world. They are cheap lies, a counterfeit that is valueless, often an imitation of what God offers, that only lets us down.
For instance, living together outside of marriage. It’s an imitation of God’s plan for people.
I don’t belong to myself! I belong to God: “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Consider what God said regarding the Israelites in Jeremiah 2:13: “My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.”
Those same truths apply to all people. We are all created by God, and made in His image. We have all forsaken God [“for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” – Romans 3:23], who offers “living water” [see John 4]. We are all like broken cisterns, that are worthless.
Since we are all created by God, we need to live according to His ways, because, as our Creator, He knows what is best for us.
But God sees what He can do in and through us when we give up fighting Him, and allow Him to direct EVERY step of our lives.
Consider the Amplified Bible’s version of Philippians 2:13: “For it is [not your strength, but it is] God who is effectively at work in you, both to will and to work [that is, strengthening, energizing, and creating in you the longing and the ability to fulfill your purpose] for His good pleasure.”
For me, coming to the end of myself comes when I use my mind, my intellect, to seek God [who is infinite in knowledge, wisdom and power], and listen as He directs me according to His plans – His plans for His purposes. That is why He created me – for His purposes. The alternative is using my mind to conjure up what I, in my finite wisdom and knowledge, can determine to do with my life.
When I compare the two ways I have lived my life – without God at the center or with God at the center – I see the ridiculousness of living life without God. I am very grateful that God grabbed hold of me 37 years ago, and radically changed my life.
The old person I was is gone, and I am now alive in Christ! It is exactly what God tells us in 2 Corinthians 5:17: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation.” The realization of the new life in Christ takes time. Every person grows in this new life at a different pace.
How quickly do you want to know God more intimately? The more you get to know God, the more His Spirit brings growth in the relationship.
This is what it takes to know God – a living and active love relationship established through the Lord Jesus.
A relationship that is motivated by love. [Mark 12:30]
A relationship that is submissive to the Lord. [James 4:7]
A relationship based in faith in Christ, not in sight. [Hebrews 11:1 and Hebrews 11:6]
A relationship marked by confession of sin and repentance. [1 John 1:9]
A relationship built by the power of God. [Ephesians 3:16-19]
There is so much more to our relationship with God, but we must come to the end of ourselves, regularly, so that our relationship grows steadily.
I often think of the song, “I Surrender All”. The truth for me is that I want to surrender all, but I’m only surrendering some at a time, but as I look back, I realize that God has brought me a long way in surrendering my life to His oversight.
To God be the glory that He doesn’t give up on me! He keeps working in me, to produce His holiness, His wholeness, and one day it will all be fully realized when this life is over, and I am with Jesus forever!!
You can have that same experience and hope in God!
I would enjoy talking with you about coming to the end of ourselves, so that we can know God personally and intimately. You can contact me at: ButGodCares@gmail.com if you want to talk.
Living for Jesus, Donna
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